Elements part 19 - Water Transcript 3

Water Transcript Three

Now, the female Water Element is learning to deal with their emotion, and they have to learn, with fear, whatever it is, in any area - they can be afraid of the authority of money, or the authority of poverty, this essence - they have to realize that they have the ability, through non-recognition, to be spiritually in charge, more than any others. Secondly, in judgement, they have a tendency to judge themselves. The Hermetic tells old Chinese that if you put all the Water women together, you would have at least seventy five percent of the mirrors in your world. Meaning, basically, they are their own worst judges, for they are always looking at themselves, more than the others who have a tendency to throw themselves together. That term within your world, is most definitive.

But the Water female must be intricate, must be exacting, must work with every intricate detail. Not because they want to flaunt, but because they want the water to be clear, that people will drink and that they can see themselves. That is important.

The Water male will be somewhat of the same kind, but will have a tendency, in many ways, to be not as exacting with their presentation but be more exacting with their relatedness. The Water male will have more difficulty with interpersonal relationships than the Water female. One reason is that the Water make does not take as much care of their physical presentation. The female has - and it is good - a seemingly positive facade around them to be able to strengthen them. The Water male, of all things they deal with, they deal not much with fear - some; not much with anger; not much with judgment; but with frustration. In frustration comes the subheadings of jealousy, having a tendency to be anxious, to worry, always to wonder where things are going to come from. They will have a tendency to see a situation and, if it is a tornado, they will see it as a typhoon. They, basically, deal with frustration, trying to get things aligned. They will have a harder time consolidating their energy than the Female Water Element; but, in strength, the Water male has the ability to give a great amount of spiritual energy in the mediumship. The sad thing that happens in your world is that those Water makes who do this usually have homosexual tendencies. Because the effeminate energy that they have learnt to use and project is not accepted by masses of other men, they, basically, turn it in. They will pull to them strong Fire Element women who will have a tendency to say, 'This is where you put your water.' In the higher sense, the Water male can do things in intricacy, more than the Earth. they have abilities in intricate and long, exacting chores. They will take hours and spend hours on a project that a Fire Element would give up in minutes. They are long-suffering; they will be frustrated, but they will stay in a situation. Where the Water female will yell and scream and maybe leave a male who is not there, the Water Element male will stay with the wife, no matter how burdensome they may be. But, in creativity, they are strong. In empathy they will perceive, they will feel emotion, they can give it easily; they are strong in that way.

The Water Element female to Fire male must learn these things. There are very few true center Fire males - meaning that they have reincarnated in the center of December 21 - March 21. Very few; most Fire males are on the fringes. A Fire male that is on the fringe of Earth has a tendency to be like an Air male. A Fire male on the fringes of Water has the tendency to be like an Earth male. And so a Water female must know, that if they are dealing with Fire/Earth male, they will be dealing with an intellectual who tries to think and tries to think things for them, does not like to do things too fast, is a very slow individual who smokes a pipe. They have a tendency of this energy. The Water/Fire deals specifically with their sexual energy and with material. That will not have the confidence that things will be taken care of financially. They will have a tendency to worry a little too much of where the money is coming from, and of their sexual prowess. The Water Element dealing with these two fringe areas can understand them in regards to these concerns. But with the true Fir make, the Water female will have things that they must know. First, the Fire male in the center can deal with energy in any area. They will have, initially, no fear. If someone calls them a bad name, they will look at the individual as if they are right. They will go any place within your earth. There is no fear. There is usually not much judgment, hardly and frustration, and the only anger usually comes to the Water female herself, not to anyone else, and it is because of this projection of emotion. The Water female will feel that she is not being loved adequately by the center Fire male, and she will press, will want to have some kind of recognition. The Fire male gives the recognition by the total energy. The Fire male will be pulled to the Water female, and the other way also, because, together, working as a team, they have the greatest abilities, they will have the most difficult time.

The Water male, dealing with a Fire female, will find that, basically, they will be dealing with an energy that they will have to do what the Fire female wants and their life will be regulated along that area. They will find that their Fire female, if it is a Water make in the companionship, will have a difficult time spiritually projecting. To the water male, it will not be easy, and they will be torn between their individual growth and staying and steadying the relationship. The Fire woman, in relationship to the Water male, will try to regulate and strengthen them through physical action; through disease of the body, through feeling badly; through feeling, basically, that hey are being subjected, or not liked, because the Water male is growing in other ways.

The Water female in relationship to the Earth, dealing with the Earth male, will be dealing with an individual that is dealing materially and physiologically, sexually oriented, having a tendency to have difficult times with interpersonal relationships, being introvertive and very creative. The water female will drawn to them in this way; they will be drawn to the creative Earth male, to the one that can project themselves through the fine arts, or music, and want to be around them. They will want to feel that creativity, that energy, that power. But they will find that, within it, they will be the major strength and there will be slowly a draining of what they are, even though there cane be excitement in what they are doing. If they stay, or they match, then, the Earth male will have to deal with his creativity in a highest level, meaning that everything they do is creative art. That, the Water female can deal with. But if the creative art has tinged of financial insecurity, and sexual, there will be difficulty. Very seldom will you find an Earth male or an Earth female that will be what you may call a one-person man or woman. They will have a tendency to need the physical satisfaction and review of what they are from many people. The Earth male will be pulled to the Water female; the Earth female will be pulled to the Fire male.

The Water male cannot stand - and usually have great difficulty with - an Earth female. The Water male is dealing with spirituality; that is wrong analogy, but it has a tendency yo be soft, loving, warm, emotional, and to cry at the drop of anything. Whereas the Earth female, who has a tendency to deal sexually and materially, will have an area of wearing out the Water male. If the Earth female is creative, dealing in fine arts or the creative form, in the higher sense, a Water make can work with them. But it would be most difficult and, over long term, most unlikely.

Water/Air: what does Air do to Water? It churns it it up, it blows it away, it does not allow it to fall where it wants to fall. One thing you should learn about a Water person: don't push them away from where they are going - and wind or air does that. If it is raining, the wind will push the rain away; they will push the water someplace else. Water and Air. A true Water female and true Air male will have great difficulty: not being able, in the true sense, to have any lasting relationships, because the Air male will think so deeply and be so deeply involved in the scientific, the logical, the political, the psychological, that they will be, in many ways, intellectually above the Water female; but not in dealing with feelings, where the Water female is way above. A most difficult interrelationship, if it is true Air and true Water. The Air person will deal in a lot of insecurities; and a Water female will have a tendency to bring out these insecurities in an Air male. The Air male will say, 'We cannot do that because it costs two ninety-five,' and the Water female says, 'But I feel we can do it,' and the Air male will not be able to fathom that. It is that conflict. The Air make will have a tendency, in the metaphysical line, using their highest point, to be able to deal with a Water female, but as a working companion, not as a mate. Old Chinese has not seen one true Air male, one true Water female, that can make a lasting relationship.

But there are fringes. The Air/Water male and the Fire/Water female have a strong connection. It has a tendency to solidify: enough of the emotion of the air and enough of logicalness, or thinking, or what you may call orientation, to be able to help the emotion; enough of the Fire in the female to overcome and say, 'We are not going to do that, even though you have thought it to death.' That can go, both with the Fire female and the Air male, Air/Water, Fire/Water, or Water/Fire. The same with the make who is Water/Fire, and the female who is Air/Water, for they have a tendency to solidify; and all what you call the cusp alignments, that is one of the strongest, mainly because they have a tendency to balance each other very well. One of the difficulties is that an Air/Water male, in their thinking and in their logicalness, will be in many ways a part of other worlds in their mind. They learn very slowly that they can feel the water, what the female is putting forward; and even what they are thinking, or studying, they will begin to perceive, as the female projects. In her projection, she does not do it in yelling; she does it within visualization, and it will work, strongly. Even to the point of deep concentration, the Air/Water male will succumb easily. Now the Air female - very few, very few. The Water make will not be pulled together. You will not find them even aligning. That relationship, basically, is not a coordinate. The female will not want to have children and the male will; and it, basically, will not work.

Water is the spiritual: easy for the individual to develop a reality of self, and project it and live with it, more so than others. But equally is hard because, in that projection, they deal with the emotion that others put at them and they feel of self. fire, Water, Air and Earth each correspond and interrelate. But all of all them, Water deals with family, with home, with consolidation of your world and it's spiritual projection. Find a community, a group, an organization, a religion, a creed, a philosophy, a teaching, a guru, and you will find more Water females and Water makes than any other Element.

In Old China, the sage was walking slowly. He had had a very long day with many students. And as he walked through the spring for a drink, there sat at the spring a small girl. And the sage knelt and drank from the spring. And the small girl said, 'Are you thirsty?'

And the sage said, 'Yes; talk to me.'

Peace

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Elements part 18 - Water Transcript 2

Water Transcript 2

Blessings and peace to you all. May the living spirit that shines in all things come forth in a beauty that makes you shine every moment of your day. Peace.

Old Chinese is going to approach the Water Element once again for these reasons: In the midst of our communication the last time we were here, there was a calling from another energy pattern beyond your plane, and many valuable spirits that Old Chinese had gathered here together for this teaching had left. There was a lot given that we will enlarge upon, and a lot that will be the same. But since this is going to be a stabilization that individuals can use to step beyond us, those that gather here feel it important to bring it forward again. In doing so, we will approach it at approximately where the spirits left, knowing that the first part can always be restored and worked with.

Of the four Elements, Fire is the strength, the energy, is the pattern of outward pushing; it is the sun. Fire has strength, and against it nothing can stand if it is positive. If it is positive and uses its energy for the highest good, there is nothing Fire cannot do. Water, however, is the most spiritually oriented of all the elements. Those that are pulled or that reincarnate to be with Water, reincarnate with these things: with the ability not only to grow but the ability to develop a spirituality of self, a spirituality that no other element can do easily. They are naturally those unifies of family, of community, of individuality projecting a spiritual perception. The Water Element, in this way, has great advantage over the others: easily to become spiritual, meaning the ability to perceive, to be. Medium within the area of their service, of working with people easier, having more empathy and understanding for children and elders. Because of these things, they come with the hardest spiritual objective of them all - to deal with emotion. If it were not for the spiritual potential of the Water Element, they would not have to deal so readily with emotions. People are pulled to Fire; they are pulled to the power of that energy, but they cannot get too close or they will burned. They will find, at times, the energy is overpowering, and they will stand away. But everyone has a tendency to be drawn to Water: to drink, to wash; and now in your world, to empty their sewage within. A linking of, basically, emptying the emotions; for the Water Elements pull emotional beings of all elements who have a difficult time following their path.

Consequently, these emotions - fear, judgment, anger, frustration - are not only felt by the individual Water Element, but by those who bring it to them, or that are involved in it and bring it to them, or those in groups or even nations that are drawn to them. Everyone in your world, at one time or another, is drawn to Water. Water is the spiritual energy. Fire, of course, is needed for growth, for warmth; but all are pulled to Water, almost in a fanatical way. There will be those that would do without Fire, but not without Water.

Emotions within a Water Element are just what you may call the balance of the spiritual self. The reason they feel that it is so agonizingly overwhelming is that it is easy to overwhelm Water. Consider the element. A small bit of oil can make it undrinkable - a little dirt or pollution. So, fear of being loved, or lovable, or loving, of fear of being accepted as individual, is the same as fear of having the waters muddied so you could not see and be refreshed by them. Anger is the same as the torment, as the raging waters, as the energy that comes from a tornado, typhoon, or hurricane, and the water is unable to be used. Frustration is when the Water is, basically, not being used correctly; it is not staying in one place; it is flowing here and there; it is like a great dam that has burst in many places and you do not know where to patch first. Judgments, basically, come by a Water Element in regards to what they are dealing with. If someone throws to them the fear, or oil, or pollution, they will judge them easily because they affect them quickly. The Fire Element will not necessarily judge them but will look down upon them and say, 'So what is it they want to do!' The Water Element will say, 'Why me?' The Water Element, in many ways, within a subconscious sense, is what Judaism calls 'the suffering servant.' 

But again, on the opposite end, the Water is the most spiritual, the most clairsentient. There are more spiritual mediums dealing with spirit communication in the Water Element, within your world, than any other. There are more Water Element females that are dealing with the social aspect of individuals than any other element. There are more Water Element people dealing with the specifics of the individual's flowingness, not psychiatry, but their flowingness, their understanding, their teaching. And of those families that have a measure of strength, it is the Water Element female that you will usually find in the steadfast, or the Water male.

These are important things to know, for the Water Element deals with spirituality on the tip of their cuff. But upon the tip of the cuff is emotion which they deal with each and every day. A Water individual will have a tendency to overact on things coming forward. First, they do not like authority of any kind. If they are surrounded by authority, their physical bodies will be absorbed with water, hard digestion, difficulty. Authority can take many forms; it can take the form of a male, of a nation, of a society, of a physical plant, of spiritual guidance. The Water Element would react to these because they do like to be what you may call confined. They want to be appreciated, but they do not want to feel this power, and they will rebel against it in the gear of not being loved or, in essence, a judgment, or anger and frustration. They will react in many ways to these things.

They will need to have solidity around them. They will be the ones that are the cleaners, that have to have things in comparative order; and if it is out of order, they feel their life is out of order, and they will be frustrated. It is like keeping a clear lake. They will constantly skim - most important for their physical and emotional being. The Water Element specifically will deal with expressing themselves, and they will express themselves outwardly. And if an individual does not accept that expression, or they feel that someone does not like them, they will react, usually withdraw, or go within a place by themselves. This is because they are dealing with emotion. These projections are strong, powerful, and they need to work with them at all times.

The Water Element says, 'So I deal with emotion; how do I deal with emotion?' Fear, the greatest fear of all, in a Water Element, is being accepted for what they are. If someone says to them, or is in contradiction to what they are believing, or feeling of self, it will have a tendency to cause them to react very sharply. They must know that, basically, there is nothing within your world that someone should throw to you, or project outward to you, that they cannot stand above. If someone says to them, 'What you are is wrong,' or they hear that the person is saying, 'You are not loving.' or they hear that they are not accepted for what they are, they will get mad at the individual for passing these untruths, or comparative truths. They should not, for the individual that projects any kind of gossip, any kind of word analogy to someone else, has a negative essence that, basically, is projected to hurt or to cause some kind of agitation.

If Old Chinese said to three or four of you, 'You are, without doubt, the ugliest, most unacceptable beings that ever walked the face of this earth,' and if you accepted that and you said, 'He has said I am this; I am mad at him,' then by accepting that ruling, by accepting that image, you have caused acceptance by other people. But if the individual says that, and you say, 'That is not true; I am the living spirit within, and what I am is as equal to what he says he is, so that is his view, 'if you take that, then it dies immediately, and other people will look at the individual that originated it and will see them as what they project. It is acceptance of what someone gives you that, basically, proves that what they have said is correct. If someone presents you with flowers and you accept them, then you say they are giving you flowers. I someone says to you, 'You are not good,' and you accept that, and you say, 'Have you heard what he said? He said I am not good,' the reason he said that is because he married the wrong woman and has had four illegitimate children and four naughty dogs. By accepting how they project you, basically, you have accepted the ruling. Someone hands you flower, try it - say, 'What flowers?' They will not know what to do with what they have. Say, 'I do not see any flowers, I do not have need of any flowers; whatever you have give to someone else.' And they will have them, themself, and people will see the flowers in their hands, not in yours. That is one of the things Water Elements deal with more than anything else, because they are empathetic, loving, dealing with these emotions. They will have a tendency to pull those things. If you are walking, or are swimming in water and a lightening storm comes over, you get out for the fear that you may be fried. So you know that water attracts energy, attracts anger, attracts negativity. Lightening is the positive-negative creating light, but it is a negative action.

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Elements part 17 - Water Transcript 1

Water Element Transcripts

Within your world, most Water Elements are female: seventy five percent plus are female. There is a reason for this, and if you are a Water Element female you automatically know that your inside is a positive force and your outside is negative. You know that you have this inner garden and it has deep inner beauty. It is a beautiful place for you to go, spiritually. The reason so many women are Water Element is because of that positive - negative energy, of the pulling together and the creating of strength. This is unique. Man does not have this but water does. Man dealing with this reacts differently as a Water Element than woman. We will deal with woman first.

The Water Element woman in her first fifteen days after spring is Water over Fire, meaning that they are dealing with emotions, dealing with expressing self, but have the ability to have the silence within, that strength within to go a little further. they do not react emotion as much. They are emphatic, loving, feminine woman that will very seldom cry. They are strong but they are centred around family. They are powerful and they have great inner beauty, but they have the ability to express their ability verbally; they have introvertish-extrovertish combination. Dealing with that, they need an extremely strong Fire Element male as their energy force, a Fire Element male that is the centre of the season. The reason for this is, in essence, to allow more energy to give their water the balance, but the male that is Fire over Water can also be a good balance with them. Within it, if they work together and develop a spiritual essence together and work as a team, they can have a good balance. The Fire/Earth male, to the Water female, has strength also; but he will be dealing with the material and the physiological, and the Water/Fire female will not want to be dealing with this. They will not want to be bothered materially or physiologically. They will want to be able to express their emotions stoically and with strength; not in the essence of softness, as a bud, but in the strength of a tree that comes forward powerfully, not with fear of not being loved or lovable.

Water Element reacting to the Earth: in dealing with the Earth Element they will, basically, have to be very withdrawn with their emotion, more so than with any other, not releasing it orally. They will have to be cautious in all areas, not overpowering in emotion and directing within their creativity, allowing them to be individualistic in the area that they are dealing with. The Earth Element, using their creativity, will have a tendency to be what you may call fanatical within cleanliness or within orderliness; and a Water Element may may be a little upset with that. Water dealing with an Earth Fire has a greater advantage, for the Fire can handle much of the emotion, will not withdraw all the way; and there can be a higher relationship there, a stronger ability. Of Earth/Air, great difficulty: should not be attempted, advised against.

The Water male is dealing in some cases as a positive-positive under the Water. In most cases, under the Earth. The Water male usually is coming forth from a last lifetime as a female and in most cases will deal with a lot of emotion and it's release; will deal with a lot of energy; will have great difficulty relating to a female Fire Element, because the female Fire Element will have a tendency to control their life, and they will not want to be controlled. But they will need that energy.

The Water male with a female Fire/Earth has the best advantage: they can release their emotion. It can be reacted to by Earth and by Fire, and they cane get the balances of both. However, the Water male can get along fairly well with an Air female. Within their emotion, the female has a tendency to be a little more relaxed and not as outward, fairly good aligning; but very seldom, for you have not many Water males and not many Air females and they are usually pulled to the opposite.

The Water/Water, in either way, you can imagine what you have: you have a Noah's flood. A Water/Water most catastrophic. If one is dealing with fear, the other has anger; if one has anger, the other has judgement; if one has judgement, the other has frustration. They are water, water all around them. They are usually pulled to the ocean, where there is more water and more emotion. Not a good alignment; very difficult, unless it is Water/Fire male and a complete Water female - possibility; or the other way around.

The Water male has the best alignment with the Earth female, for within their emotion the female's natural tendency is to absorb that, even though they are Earth; and there can be a rebalancing. The Water will be creative and warm and loving; the female Earth will want that loving physically, will have creativity, and so will Water male. Because they cannot have children and and will not be dealing with it, they will exceed in creativity, art form. Rembrandt was a Water male. Van Dyke was a Water male, and of course you all knew that the great artist Chou Li Nouk was a Water male - did some of the greatest paintings in China.

The totality of all these is that the Water female has beauty within family and expresses emotion and is clairsentient. The Water male is creative, artistic, has the ability of expressing; does not deal as much with clairsentience as with expressing their inner source as an art form, outwardly, rather than through someone else, as a  Water female does. The Water Element is the spring; is the beauty of the flowers; is the fertility. It is a time of creativity, of warmth and loving. Utilized in the highest sense, the Water Element can give a balance of unity, warmth, and loving to people that will be drawn to them from Earth, Air, and Fire because of their femininity, or their creativity as a male, and the strength within that.  

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Return to the Elements of Love

Return to the Elements of Love

I thought because we were looking at the differences between the Elements that it was a good time to revisit an earlier post called the Elements of Love. 

Understanding the elements of love allows us to have better relationships. Whether it is your partner, a friend, a client or even a character in a book, they all have their own element or season of love. Each of them because of this inbuilt genetic bias can only see the world from their viewpoint. The key, firstly, to understanding your own elemental type, is that it allows you to be free and be able to see the world in all it's magnificence, not just from a single viewpoint. As a Homoeopath and writer understanding the elements allows me to fully understand how my patient or the character in my books will act in any given situation. After studying the elements or the seasons that exist within all of us I wrote down the teaching in a modern fable called "The 33rd Sage."  

When I first heard the story of the sage and the emperor I was transfixed by the majesty of the story, but even more than that I began to understand myself. Today I would like to talk about the Elements of Love. This will be done in the form of a quote from my book where the Old Chinese Sage has taken on his female form and begins to teach about the Elements of Love. The love languages which match with each of the elemental types are called words of appreciation (Fire), Acts of Service (Air), Quality Time (Water) and Physical Touch (Earth). These names of each of the love languages are taken from his classic book, The 'Five Love Languages,' by Gary Chapman.

She lent forward, her heavy jowls sagging under her words. "The heart has four chambers, one to represent each of the Elements. It is as though each of the chambers was designed to carry one of the love languages; the top two chambers being the extroverts corresponding with Fire and Earth and the two bottom ones, the introverts corresponding to Water and Air." Conway cringed, shifting uneasily on the log. He dropped his head, his eyes scanning the dirt in front of him. His shoulders drooped. He bent over and scratched the ground with a stick. His breathing became shallow, almost stopping. "If the word love scares you, I can use the word rapport.” Conway looked up, smiling weakly. He sat up, forcing a deep breath into his body, immediately lifting his shoulders. She continued, a wry smile creasing the corners of her lips. “Using the language of love brings us into a symbiotic relationship with others. Without understanding the Love Language of others, the lust soon dies and we are left with ashes, another missed opportunity. Anyone we come into contact with deserves to be heard and spoken to in their own language; this is the greatest gift of the ‘Seasons of Love.’ It is not about passion, for that is only natural when we are in rapport with one another; it is about understanding the differences and honouring them. The differences are what give us our life, and our passion.

Ask anyone you meet, if they would they like to live in a world without friction. If they answer yes, I will show you a person who does not know life, but is merely going through the motions. For without friction, there would be no sex, there would be no life. "Get to know everybody's ‘Seasons of Love,’ honour the differences and exalt in the friction, for without the friction our world and our universe would not have come into being." Her passion flowed forth in her words. Conway was in the presence of Fire burning true. She spoke from her heart to his heart, using his language and he knew it, but it was not in the way of manipulation; no it was with a sense of honouring, of respecting, the differences and caring so much about them, that she changed her language so he would understand. For the first time, he understood the meaning of the word communication. He was taken on a ride of discovery, with her words. His mind was filled with word pictures. Words; how he loved their sound and the way the passion of one person could lift another, just by words. "The love language of the Fire Element is words of affirmation, or appreciation, words that uplift the individual. Verbal comments or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straight forward statements of appreciation such as I really love your cooking, or you look fabulous in that dress. Fire people can almost live on words of appreciation.

"The object of love is not getting what you want, but doing something to support or increase the well-being of whoever you are in relationship with. "Even during lovemaking, the Fire personality responds to words of appreciation. The most important foreplay for them is words. If their second Elemental type is Water then they will require quality time and words of appreciation as a turn on. If their secondary Element is Earth then physical touch along with words of appreciation will be the best form of foreplay.

"The Water Element needs you to spend quality time with them-time when you totally focus on them. Turn off the television. Put down the book. Whatever it is that you are doing, forget it for a few minutes and give them your full attention and you will not believe how much love one person can give. You need to be the ultimate listener. They will respond well to candlelight dinners at home. Sit with them while they share their day and their emotions; for without a good listener they will be trapped inside a bubble of feelings, feelings, which need to flow, like fresh running water. Dam them and they become frustrated, stop the flow and it will kill them emotionally. If it is a Water child they will constantly beg for your attention, not like a Fire child who wants you to tell them how wonderful they are; the Water child wants you to spend time with them, whether it is playing, watching television or reading stories with them. They want to do anything where they will get your full attention. "If you give the Water type words of appreciation, or cook and clean for them, or do material things for them, or give them physical touch they will not feel loved unless you are first and foremost able to give them quality time." The passion, with which the feminine side of Old Chinese spoke, held Conway spellbound.

"The Air Element’s love type is acts of service. If you are in relationship with an acts-of-service person they will clean for you, darn your socks, mow the lawn, have dinner waiting for you when you come home; being the social conscience of all the Elements, they are in service to mankind and their loving style is the same. Foreplay for them is painting the spare room and washing the dishes. Do not make the mistake of allowing them to do everything because they appear to like it, or you will develop the martyr who is crying out for you to share some of the load.

"The Earth type being sense-indulgent, their love style is physical touch. Not just sex or physical foreplay, although that is also important to them. They are the ones that need to touch and be touched, sometimes they lack a sense of your space, which they will quickly fill, with their own. With this type if you want a loving relationship, you need to touch them and allow them to touch you. A kind word or a gift has little weight without the loving touch of your hand or the brush of a leg. In times of difficulty, they want to be touched, but only if they say so."

"In times of stress the Fire Element wants to communicate their difficulty to you. The Water wants you to sit with them. The Air wants you to serve them, while the Earth is warmed by the touch, the senses. "Of course, we are all aspects of the four of these, but generally we have a dominant love type that we respond to positively, more quickly than the others." What is your element of love? What is your friend or partner's element of love? Are you giving them what you want to receive in return?

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The Elements of Love

The Elements of Love Understanding the elements of love allows us to have better relationships. Whether it is your partner, a friend, a client or even a character in a book, they all have their own element or season of love. Each of them because of this inbuilt genetic bias can only see the world from their viewpoint. The key, firstly, to understanding your own elemental type, is that it allows you to be free and be able to see the world in all it's magnificence, not just from a single viewpoint. As a Homoeopath and writer understanding the elements allows me to fully understand how my patient or the character in my books will act in any given situation. After studying the elements or the seasons that exist within all of us I wrote down the teaching in a modern fable called "The 33rd Sage." The story itself follows the ark of the Hero's Journey while at the same time allowing the reader to better understand themselves and the people around them. In the next twelve months many of my bloggs will be about these wonderful teachings which I was given by a character I will called old Chinese. When I first heard the story of the sage and the emperor I was transfixed by the majesty of the story, but even more than that I began to understand myself. Today I would like to talk about the Elements of Love. This will be done in the form of a quote from my book where the Old Chinese Sage has taken on his female form and begins to teach about the Elements of Love. The love languages which match with each of the elemental types are called words of appreciation (Fire), Acts of Service (Air), Quality Time (Water) and Physical Touch (Earth). These names of each of the love languages are taken from his classic book, The 'Five Love Languages,' by Gary Chapman. She lent forward, her heavy jowls sagging under her words. "The heart has four chambers, one to represent each of the Elements. It is as though each of the chambers was designed to carry one of the love languages; the top two chambers being the extroverts corresponding with Fire and Earth and the two bottom ones, the introverts corresponding to Water and Air." Conway cringed, shifting uneasily on the log. He dropped his head, his eyes scanning the dirt in front of him. His shoulders drooped. He bent over and scratched the ground with a stick. His breathing became shallow, almost stopping. "If the word love scares you, I can use the word rapport.” Conway looked up, smiling weakly. He sat up, forcing a deep breath into his body, immediately lifting his shoulders. She continued, a wry smile creasing the corners of her lips. “Using the language of love brings us into a symbiotic relationship with others. Without understanding the Love Language of others, the lust soon dies and we are left with ashes, another missed opportunity. Anyone we come into contact with deserves to be heard and spoken to in their own language; this is the greatest gift of the ‘Seasons of Love.’ It is not about passion, for that is only natural when we are in rapport with one another; it is about understanding the differences and honouring them. The differences are what give us our life, and our passion. Ask anyone you meet, if they would they like to live in a world without friction. If they answer yes, I will show you a person who does not know life, but is merely going through the motions. For without friction, there would be no sex, there would be no life. "Get to know everybody's ‘Seasons of Love,’ honour the differences and exalt in the friction, for without the friction our world and our universe would not have come into being." Her passion flowed forth in her words. Conway was in the presence of Fire burning true. She spoke from her heart to his heart, using his language and he knew it, but it was not in the way of manipulation; no it was with a sense of honouring, of respecting, the differences and caring so much about them, that she changed her language so he would understand. For the first time, he understood the meaning of the word communication. He was taken on a ride of discovery, with her words. His mind was filled with word pictures. Words; how he loved their sound and the way the passion of one person could lift another, just by words. "The love language of the Fire Element is words of affirmation, or appreciation, words that uplift the individual. Verbal comments or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straight forward statements of appreciation such as I really love your cooking, or you look fabulous in that dress. Fire people can almost live on words of appreciation. "The object of love is not getting what you want, but doing something to support or increase the well-being of whoever you are in relationship with. "Even during lovemaking, the Fire personality responds to words of appreciation. The most important foreplay for them is words. If their second Elemental type is Water then they will require quality time and words of appreciation as a turn on. If their secondary Element is Earth then physical touch along with words of appreciation will be the best form of foreplay. "The Water Element needs you to spend quality time with them-time when you totally focus on them. Turn off the television. Put down the book. Whatever it is that you are doing, forget it for a few minutes and give them your full attention and you will not believe how much love one person can give. You need to be the ultimate listener. They will respond well to candlelight dinners at home. Sit with them while they share their day and their emotions; for without a good listener they will be trapped inside a bubble of feelings, feelings, which need to flow, like fresh running water. Dam them and they become frustrated, stop the flow and it will kill them emotionally. If it is a Water child they will constantly beg for your attention, not like a Fire child who wants you to tell them how wonderful they are; the Water child wants you to spend time with them, whether it is playing, watching television or reading stories with them. They want to do anything where they will get your full attention. "If you give the Water type words of appreciation, or cook and clean for them, or do material things for them, or give them physical touch they will not feel loved unless you are first and foremost able to give them quality time." The passion, with which the feminine side of Old Chinese spoke, held Conway spellbound. "The Air Element’s love type is acts of service. If you are in relationship with an acts-of-service person they will clean for you, darn your socks, mow the lawn, have dinner waiting for you when you come home; being the social conscience of all the Elements, they are in service to mankind and their loving style is the same. Foreplay for them is painting the spare room and washing the dishes. Do not make the mistake of allowing them to do everything because they appear to like it, or you will develop the martyr who is crying out for you to share some of the load. "The Earth type being sense-indulgent, their love style is physical touch. Not just sex or physical foreplay, although that is also important to them. They are the ones that need to touch and be touched, sometimes they lack a sense of your space, which they will quickly fill, with their own. With this type if you want a loving relationship, you need to touch them and allow them to touch you. A kind word or a gift has little weight without the loving touch of your hand or the brush of a leg. In times of difficulty, they want to be touched, but only if they say so." "In times of stress the Fire Element wants to communicate their difficulty to you. The Water wants you to sit with them. The Air wants you to serve them, while the Earth is warmed by the touch, the senses. "Of course, we are all aspects of the four of these, but generally we have a dominant love type that we respond to positively, more quickly than the others." What is your element of love? What is your friend or partner's element of love? Are you giving them what you want to receive in return?